My Story

I’m Wende, and what you do is not who you are!

I could give you my résumé. I’ve worked in management and real estate, and I ran my own general contracting business. I’m the mom of two grown boys (yes, I kept them alive), and I’ve been married to the same man since 2000.

But what you do is not who you are.

My real identity has come through only in the last few years. Now I can tell you, comfortably, that I’m kind, witty, direct, wise and fun to be around. I’m brave. I can be obsessive, and sometimes a little absent-minded. And I love who I am.

In 2022, my life came apart in one night. I spent more than a year discovering who I had become after giving away little pieces of myself to everyone around me, and who I still was underneath. Then I got to decide who I would be from here.

That woman is fierce, soft, loving and unstoppable.

Sometimes we just need a little push, or simply permission, to be who we were meant to be all along. We drift off track, and we need to realign before we can move forward. Helping women find that freedom is now my mission.

You already know who you are. I help you return to her.

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CONNECT WITH WENDE

I FOUND MY PURPOSE

I FOUND MY PURPOSE

HOW IT ALL STARTED

You wake one day and realize…. “This is not what i had planned!”

If you are here and still reading you have probably woken to the fact that you are not living your best life. Or you are, and you feel like an imposter in it. Not sure how you got here and from the outside, it looks amazing. On the inside you are dying a little everyday. You have lost your identity, your sense of purpose no longer makes sense to you. Or maybe the people you have been living your whole life for have decided to live their own life and you feel left behind. Have you worked so hard to create your perfect career that you have figured out life is passing you by? We can fix this! Let me assist you in coming home to yourself!

Wende Valentine smiling in a tan suede jacket and glasses

Let’s get to know each other. THREE FUN FACTS ABOUT Wende.

NO. 1

I grew up as the oldest of 4 kids (3 younger brothers) in a town of about 600 people in Western NY. GO BILLS! My parents are still married, and my whole family still lives in the same small town we grew up in.

NO. 2

I love to read historical novels (fact and fiction) even though I didn’t pass a history class without summer school from 7th grade on. My other most favorite hobby is playing Pickleball. I’m up for play anytime anywhere!

NO. 3

My Degree is in Hotel Restaurant Management with a minor in Culinary arts. I managed restaurant until I got married at the age of 27.

Ways to connect
with Wende

All the places and spaces you can learn more from me:

  • Wende Valentine writing in her journal

    LETTERS

    I send a weekly “letter” to myself. Sometimes it feels more like a journal entry with a story about a life experience, what i learned from it and a question to help you navigate things that may be happening in your life too.

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  • Wende Valentine mid-thought, glasses in hand

    PODCAST

    I do a podcast every week. Sometimes there is a guest and we break down their story and how it can help the listeners. Sometimes it is an expanded version of “My Letter” to help them better understand me and themselves.

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  • Wende Valentine seated in a leather chair, smiling

    SPEAKING

    I love being in a room with other women, being able to tell my story and find relatable topics that give other women the courage and permission they need to find the best version of themselves that is buried deep beneath.

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